It seems a weird question for NON-ASIAN but it is really a big question for ASIAN people, especially the Vietnamese. I did a small survey on my friends and saw that most of them agreed that the husband should bring most of money for the family.
Let's see what the majority of men talk about this phenomenon. There were many different options however they all agreed that man is the breadwinner of family then they must have responsibility to guard the family. They needed to do the important tasks in family and earn money to ensure that all family members have the good standard of life. However, they also admitted that in the modern life they cannot earn enough money for their family and they need supports from their wife. They also wish that they can earn much money in order to let their wives stay at home and take care of their children as well as do housework.
How about women? What do they think? I did the survey on my relatives who are modern women and realized that all of them don't like to stay at home to do housework and take care of baby, including me. My aunt, an intelligent woman, has the master degree and is working with high salary said that her husband can earn enough money for their family to have an affluent life. And she used to think about staying at home to take care of children but finally she decided to hire a babysitter to help her take care of their children because she didn't want to lose all knowledge that she learned at school. She wanted to use what she learned to devote to society, and moreover, she wanted to be financially independent of her husband.
The second woman I interviewed was my cousin. She has neither graduated from a famous university nor earned a high salary but she wanted to go to work to have the social relationships. She felt stressful when she was in maternity leave. She accepted to pay 60% her salary to send her daughter to the school. She knows that the amount of money she earns cannot support the family but it makes her happier.
Finally, I would say that in Vietnam the majority of men want their wives to stay at home to take care of children while most of the women want to go to work and to be treated as equally as men. In my perspective, I prefer to go to work to gain the financial autonomy and do our dream but in case I must stay at home for some special reason, I am willing to do that.
Let's see what the majority of men talk about this phenomenon. There were many different options however they all agreed that man is the breadwinner of family then they must have responsibility to guard the family. They needed to do the important tasks in family and earn money to ensure that all family members have the good standard of life. However, they also admitted that in the modern life they cannot earn enough money for their family and they need supports from their wife. They also wish that they can earn much money in order to let their wives stay at home and take care of their children as well as do housework.
How about women? What do they think? I did the survey on my relatives who are modern women and realized that all of them don't like to stay at home to do housework and take care of baby, including me. My aunt, an intelligent woman, has the master degree and is working with high salary said that her husband can earn enough money for their family to have an affluent life. And she used to think about staying at home to take care of children but finally she decided to hire a babysitter to help her take care of their children because she didn't want to lose all knowledge that she learned at school. She wanted to use what she learned to devote to society, and moreover, she wanted to be financially independent of her husband.
The second woman I interviewed was my cousin. She has neither graduated from a famous university nor earned a high salary but she wanted to go to work to have the social relationships. She felt stressful when she was in maternity leave. She accepted to pay 60% her salary to send her daughter to the school. She knows that the amount of money she earns cannot support the family but it makes her happier.
Finally, I would say that in Vietnam the majority of men want their wives to stay at home to take care of children while most of the women want to go to work and to be treated as equally as men. In my perspective, I prefer to go to work to gain the financial autonomy and do our dream but in case I must stay at home for some special reason, I am willing to do that.
